My parents are really homophobic, and they don’t know I’m gay. Should I come out of the closet? I’m just finishing High School and I still live with them.
NO. PLEASE DON’T. your life would end up even more miserable when they disown you and all the family drama. it’s not worth it. don’t let western media convince you that coming out is the ultimate happiness BECAUSE IT ISN’T.
your financial safety and well-being come first. i know it sucks you have homophobic parents but once you’ve graduated college, get a job, and can support yourself, you’ll now be able to come out and survive.
TBH coming out to family should be optional like it shouldn’t be your parents’ business and i hate western media for socialising young gay men into thinking that they have to come out to be happy. because you dont have to. you can be happy even when you’re not out. like sure, it is nice to come out but do it wisely and assess the environment.
so yeah, if your parents are homophobic and you don’t have a stable career then DON’T. PLEASE.
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My great uncle is a 58 year old gay man who is engaged. He is still not out to his 80 something year-old father. Because he doesn’t want to kill his dad, mostly. But also because he’s afraid of his dad still. You don’t ever have to come out to your family if you don’t feel safe doing so.
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